Property in life phases of single women
Do you think you have Gender Equality concerning buying your land and building your dream home?
Do you think Gender Equality existed during Ramayana? Were women treated equally and given similar status as men during those days?
Is gender equality even possible?
Let me share a small reel of reality, about two-fifths of countries worldwide limits women’s property rights. In 19 countries, women do not have equal ownership rights to immovable property. In 44 countries, male and female surviving spouses do not have equal rights to inherit assets.
A few facts and figures in numbers do not attack our mind tactfully, it can be a glance of reading material unless it is affecting you. In some cases, it will be affecting. Still, it is accepted as the norm of normal life that cannot be changed.
Let me start my point of view from the epicenter of the era of errors that happened during Ramayana. As Rama Navami is coming on April 10, my point of view started there as it is similar to the earthquake epicenter. Men centered society’s epicenter was Ramayana. I heard people blaming Ramayana happened because of Kaikayi, Manthara, and then Sita. My affirmed answer to them is it started because of Dasharatha.
The unedited version of Ramayana that most people does not want to know
I know a story from Ramayana where it is said that the first child of Dasharatha is not Rama but is a girl called Shanta. King Dasharatha and Queen Kausalya have blessed a daughter, Shanta. She was the epitome of poise, peace, and harmony. King Dasharatha longed for a son; to continue his reign, despite having a princess with the qualities of a warrior like Shanta.
King Dasharatha got information that a woman with great power can manage to bring Rishyasringa into a family world. Then the Putrakameshti Yagna performed by him could bear a son from his wives. Dasharatha, out of desperation and helplessness asked Shanta to bring Sage Rishyasringa. She followed her father’s order and Shanta gave up princely life and married Rishyasringa So that he can perform Putrakameshti.
Why this story?
Shanta; a great warrior, was never considered to be a queen, who can rule the land. A great scale of discrimination was invented then, and discovery is cherished today. People still follow that king, but why?.
No answer can be invented or discovered.
Still, Presenting a Stand For Her Land?
A global campaign was held Washington, on March 25, 2019. The program was for conveying the way for women in half of the countries in the world who are unable to claim equal land and property rights despite legal protections. The campaign, Stand For Her Land, the aim was to close this persistently penetrating gap between law and practice worldwide so that millions of women can realize these rights in their daily lives.
Persistent prejudice in social customs accustomed by people is the obstacle that is hard to tackle for women to get their land and property rights. It has built an invisible but near-impenetrable wall for women in rural and urban areas.
Building a house is an ambition of human beings. The right to realize the dream is given to men only or women with men living in the family as the head of the family. When you read this, it may sound abnormal, but it is the norm in this society.
Women in Jammu and Kashmir (J&K) can now buy land and transfer property to children, even if they get married to a non-resident of Kashmir, as Article 35A has automatically become void with the scrapping of Article 370.
A year back, I heard the news about Kashmir Women’s land and property rights. I did not feel it is restricted to Kashmir, because it is an unwritten law that exists in Karnataka, or even I can say that all the corners of India for single women (unmarried women, widows).
When you read, this may be strange. This range is true till today. It may rage a few, but it is not new. Those who are reading this may think that society has changed. There is ample single woman who is earning and living alone. Society is okay with single women acquiring a livelihood and living alone in a rented house, hostel.
INDIAN SOCIETY PROTOCOL WITH ENORMOUS CARE AND CONCERN DESIGNED FOR WOMEN (UNMARRIED WOMEN, WIDOWS), THEY ARE
Society has unanimously anonymously has decided that
IT IS FOR WHAT, IT USELESS TO HER
The rules do stop there, and the list grows THERE ARE DUTIES SHE HAS TO FOLLOW RELIGIOUSLY
But vice versa does not happen. It is an Indian Society Protocol. Women have to abide by it.
I LIKE TO SCREAM AMONG THIS HUGE CHAOS AND DECLARE THAT SINGLE WOMEN IS A HUMAN BEING. THE WOMAN NEEDS TO PROTECT HERSELF FROM WEATHER CHANGES, AND SHE NEEDS SHELTER, AND IT CAN BE OWN ONE, NEED NOT BE RENTED AS SO-CALLED SOCIETY WISHES FOR HER, NOT ONLY FOR PROTECTION FROM WEATHER SOMETIMES FROM THE BEAST IN THE FORM OF HUMANS.
Yes, dreams come true
Constructing my own house was not only my dream, it was the dream of my father. I had always seen my father writing a plan for a home, but it did not come true when he was alive. We were residing at our ancestral house, and my father got an electric connection to that house. At that time, having a calling bell at the door was new. My father had purchased a doorbell and got it installed, and as a child, I used to love it. When our ancestral property was divided, we had to vacate the house. I removed the doorbell; and told my father that when we construct the house, we will put the same bell as a door ring, and he told me to stop daydreaming. Ultimately it is the same doorbell that is fitted in my home today.
I know that most of us may have small stories like these to tell, which reveals our emotional inclination, but why does society discriminate between men and women while realizing our dreams. When I lost my father; I was told that I should not think of owning a house by my relatives and friends
Do you think I do not have a right to use my inherited money as I wanted it to be?
Do you think you have Gender Equality in a matter of choosing to be single?
House you use cannot be home always, It will be home when I start living blissfully.
One may tell that it is the care and concern of my relatives. I am not objecting to care and concern here, I should go ahead with great care of not losing money. My opinion on the major decision in life as a woman was not important to them. It is a placard of concern, care, and a religious duty that will never be transparent; it is a coloured board to show you, but it will have a different intention on the back of it. If I was a male child of my father, the same society would have appreciated it and would have told me to go ahead with caution. I am not against anybody showing their concern with caution. But it is the Indian Society Protocol that says no right for a single woman to think of property. The constitutional rights to purchase a property have been restored in books, but practically it is still at large.
Yearning for an era of change
Lately, I also paused and thought society may have changed. The thought of not seeing it with preconceived notions came to my mind.
One of my relatives, who 20 years ago told me that it is not my right to own property, again came up and told me that I should not live in my own house because my mother is no more living in that house, she left for a heavenly abode. Self-respect, taking my life decision is also the property of men in this society.
There are several apps developed and updated now and then, which is used by this society. No software could upgrade this rusted society.
The modern society that is only in claims is still stuck to that 20 years back Indian Society Protocol.
The modern society that is only in claims is still stuck to that 20 years back Indian Society Protocol. The last part of the blog; where I am sharing my personal experience, was not written to get sympathy. I empathize with several single women who are fighting this social injustice evil. It has been 22 years now, I will continue to fight till the last breath of this life. Society sinks the change when it’s within range. But rates it as rage when they cannot arrange hoarding to hold.